Yes, I finally put my thoughts onto paper…a thought I had over 20 years ago while I was studying electrical engineering at Clemson University has come to fruition. The purpose of my book is to help you get to your best self. It is designed to help you see that, most of the time, what holds you back from being the you that you want to be are the things that you need to discard and do without. The painful disappointments, dealings, and doubts are all weighing on your shoulders and preventing you from standing tall, shaking it all off, and striving forward. With various insights and best practices, along with room to capture your reflections and next steps, this book is designed to be a constant resource that you need to reference/work through on an ongoing basis. I am aiming for a digital launch on June 2nd, so stay tuned and look out for a purchase link!
If you did not know, Hubby and me got married on March 27, 2004, so on the 27th of each month, we celebrate our union. This involves reflecting on the prior month to determine if there are areas we need to improve on moving forward. To give you a little insight into my work, I have a section in the book that is a recap of the entire book, just in case you need a quick refresher. It is a reference guide that can be used any time you need it for reflection purposes. Here is a sneak-peak for your review.
“Whether you have read the entire book and now find yourself in reflection mode, you just need to digest a few words to talk yourself off the ledge, or you are seeking a quick refresher, here are the highlights from each chapter. Review this recap when necessary, but remember that you will still need to devote the necessary time to conducting the real work so you get the most out of this book.
Chapter 1: Your X-Associations
1) Humans have a natural tendency to feel attached to groups because it fulfills our need for social connection and belonging. Being part of an association can give us a sense of identity, purpose, and community.
2) Holding on to an unhealthy association often comes down to a mix of comfort, fear, guilt, and loneliness.
3) Letting go of unhealthy associations is a courageous step towards a brighter and more fulfilling life. It can open the door to a world of positivity, self-discovery, and growth. Remember, it is okay to prioritize your well-being and happiness; you deserve all the good things that come your way after making this empowering choice.
Chapter 2: Your X-Partners
1) A relationship is a fifty-fifty experience, so if it does not work out, ultimately, both parties share the blame. And, quite frankly, blame is relative.
2) Breaking up with a romantic partner can be one of the most difficult and painful experiences in life. It can take a toll on emotional and mental health, leaving a person feeling lost, lonely, and vulnerable. However, sometimes, a breakup can be the best thing that ever happened, and people often feel better off without their ex-partner.
3) Post-breakup, you may experience improved emotional well-being, increased independence, greater clarity and self-awareness, new opportunities, and better relationships in the future. Ultimately, it is important to remember that while a breakup can be painful, it can also be an opportunity for positive change and growth.
Chapter 3: Your X-Friends
1) Poet Brian A. Chalker said, “People come into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime.” “Reason” friends appear to help us with a problem, “season” friends bring us great joy but often for a short time, and “lifetime” friends are those who never stop teaching us to love and grow. Figure out the category the person falls into, and embrace it.
2) Holding on to an unhealthy friendship often comes down to a mix of history, fear, hope, and guilt. It is not always easy to see the best path forward.
3) After letting go, you will experience relief, rediscover your self-worth, create space for healthier relationships, gain time and energy, improve your mental and emotional well-being, and become better at setting boundaries. It is a journey of self-discovery and growth that ultimately leads to a more positive and fulfilling life.”
Want to read what I say next? Like I said earlier, stay tuned and look out for a purchase link for my first book!